If all your life up until now you’ve always been focusing on other people as your central point of reference – how do you learn to get in touch with what it is that YOU yourself want? If until now, you always thought that you could never make it on your own, that you would always need someone (maybe „others“ in general, maybe one special person) to cheer you on, to tell you that you can do or get whatever it is you’re going for, that you are good enough…
And if you finally begin to understand – painfully slowly at first – that by handing over so much power to others you not only avoid responsibility but also manipulate yourself….
… then what do you do?
And if you’re finally willing to let go? How do you learn to exist on your own terms, how do you find out who you are when there’s not some other person or group who you can define yourself through, who serves as your orientation, your North Star? Seems like a lonely road. Then again, it doesn’t get much lonelier than when you rely so much on others that you completely forget how much strength and magic you have inside of yourself.
How do you let go of that and finally listen to the truth that’s inside of you, a truth that none other than you yourself can get you in touch with? How do you learn to feel whether it’s your soul that longs for something – or your ego?
How do you let go of relying on the opinion or the judgement of others?
Those who tell you „you’re not ready, you can’t do this, you’re not good enough, not loud enough, not amazing enough, not skilled enough“. the people who say „I don’t think you’re capable of this just yet, you have to wait, you have to change this and that about yourself first…“
How do you learn to fly on your own instead of hoping for someone else to lift you up?
In the end, this is not just a matter of believing in yourself in terms of skills and finding a meaningful job, a purpose in life if you will. It’s so much more… it’s about loving yourself and believing in the power from within you, no matter how deep inside of you it might be hidden.